I'm not trying to get rid of all my problems. For example, I'm not one of those people who seeks to lose ALL my excess weight (it is the extra pounds that make me curvy). And I truly believe that my problems are part of the lessons I'm here to learn in this life.
If for some reason you are sorrowful right now, please take some time for yourself and give up some of the burden you carry. I'm not saying you have to have zero problems to enjoy your life, but the weight of the world is not meant to be carried by anyone. Take a few minutes and make time to light a candle and ask the universe for a little relief. Then take steps to make the changes YOU need. Go ahead, give yourself permission not to make the holidays perfect. Or accept the fact that you can not buy each and everyone of your family and friends the perfect gift.
I see the dark time as a time to rest - just like the land is resting outside under the heavy frost. I try to celebrate the seasons by following the rhythm of the land - and see winter as the time for taking it easy. I sometimes think that I'm doing too much when I knock myself out to 'do' Yuletide / Christmas celebrating, bringing on unnecessary problems and extra work. Then I remember, the plants are dead outside, we are alive and celebrating, humans were made to party. If I start to feel overwhelmed, I stop and try to find balance. To trade off some of the manufactured craziness for true peace on earth (well, at least peace and quiet in my little world).
Our neighbors (a superstitious lot) have this need to remove all traces of their Christmas celebrations before the first day of the new year. This causes them as much (or more!) grief than getting ready for the holidays - rushing around as if they would be cursed if all signs of a good time were not put away. Not me, at this house we celebrate winter without guilt until we have to dust the ornaments - or until the next turning of the wheel.
|Whiskey and candle light - enjoying a warm drink on a cold night.|
Hidden in plain sight moment: We both look forward to those peaceful pauses just to enjoy the decorations and the extra light here in our home. And, after the holiday rush, Darrin loves to sit by the lit tree and the fireplace almost as much as I do. I think he likes breaking the tradition his family had of having to get all of Christmas put away just after they had celebrated. Me, I like holding on to the winter, celebrating the season as long as I can.